WHY? Damn it! WHY do women do this?

Maybe someone can tell me why.

Published on August 6, 2006 By Moderateman In Personal Relationships

OK lets start off with men are wired differently than women are, this is neither bad nor good, it just is the truth.

Now, A woman complains about something, be it the floor that has a stain that will not come out, or the dishes are to high for them to reach them, whatever the complaint is men HEAR, HELP ME, even if the woman does not want help, that is what men hear.. help me, fix this!, make this better!.

Now women for the most part, as least the women that are aware know this, yet they {the independant ones} complain when we drop everything to rush to their rescue!

Why? Knowing that if you women say something, your man wants to fix it, complain? why? why ?

Comments (Page 2)

Moderateman

on Aug 06, 2006

Reply By: Tova7Posted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
We vent to people we care about because we hope they will listen and love us anyway!

Then promptly forget about it when we've decided its no longer venting worthy.

All vents should start with "No action is required on your part aside from listening."

I try to say something along those lines when I need to talk with my hubby. His whole posture relaxes!

I am going to show this one to colleen maybe she can start with that sentence and that will disarm my desire to want to help.

Moderateman

on Aug 06, 2006

The female mind is the most fickle thing ever invented, so why even try to understand it?

Reply By: terpfan1980Posted: Sunday, August 06, 2006

ain't you the brave man? I would expect some ladies to tear your head off for this one.

Moderateman

on Aug 06, 2006

Reply By: Zoologist03Posted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
Yeah...I'll have to agree with the other comments up there. It seems women just like to vent or as I've heard it put, "Go through the journey of communication and discovery" whereas us men, well, we want to FIX it and then stop worrying.

I don't know...I just try not to make them mad...that's all I can do.

I do my best to never piss a woman off, they can be hazardous to mens health when angry.

KFC Kickin For Christ

on Aug 06, 2006

I do my best to never piss a woman off,

too late.....

they can be hazardous to mens health when angry

you betcha!! That's what we live for.

Adventure-Dude

on Aug 06, 2006

The bottom line boils down to this. Men need to know that they are loved and hate to be disrespected. Women need to FEEL that they are loved.

Just as we men automatically think. Oh need to fix something and we have this record going over and over in our brains majority of women have the "Does he love me?" record going over and over and over in their brains. Where women differ from other women is how they recognize love from us guys. Without the women in question saying how, we men will fail at said question because we suck at taking hints.

Just my thoughts.

dynamaso

on Aug 07, 2006

Oh, the woes of inter-sex communication. I still don't pretend to understand. My best defence is to plead complete ignorance and hope they forgive me.

foreverserenity

on Aug 07, 2006

Women expect men to know what they're thinking, no matter what. YOU being the spouse, boyfriend, etc., are supposed to be tuned-in to her emotions, no matter what.

That means you're supposed to know whether she's just mad at the world, you or just want some alone time. And Elie, sometimes she might just be wondering why did she even have to say something before you fix it!

Moderateman

on Aug 07, 2006

Reply By: KFC (Kickin For Christ)Posted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
I do my best to never piss a woman off,

too late.....

have I angered you, and if so what did I do?

Moderateman

on Aug 07, 2006

Reply By: Adventure-DudePosted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
The bottom line boils down to this. Men need to know that they are loved and hate to be disrespected. Women need to FEEL that they are loved.

Just as we men automatically think. Oh need to fix something and we have this record going over and over in our brains majority of women have the "Does he love me?" record going over and over and over in their brains.

I would like to have some women chime in on this.

MasonM

on Aug 07, 2006

#26 by Moderateman
Mon, August 07, 2006 10:30 AM

[Moderateman]

Reply By: Adventure-DudePosted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
The bottom line boils down to this. Men need to know that they are loved and hate to be disrespected. Women need to FEEL that they are loved.

Just as we men automatically think. Oh need to fix something and we have this record going over and over in our brains majority of women have the "Does he love me?" record going over and over and over in their brains.

I would like to have some women chime in on this.

They don't want to give away their secrets.

Moderateman

on Aug 07, 2006

#27 by MasonM
Mon, August 07, 2006 10:36 AM

They don't want to give away their secrets.

I am seeking knowledge in order to be a better man and mate.

How could any woman deny me that?

Tova7

on Aug 07, 2006

I am seeking knowledge in order to be a better man and mate.

That sentence makes you exactly what you are seeking to be MM.

I speak for myself when I say, most of what makes my man so damn sexy is his DESIRE for those things.

Moderateman

on Aug 07, 2006

#29 by Tova7
Mon, August 07, 2006 11:20 AM

am seeking knowledge in order to be a better man and mate.

That sentence makes you exactly what you are seeking to be MM.

I speak for myself when I say, most of what makes my man so damn sexy is his DESIRE for those things.

well thank you, high praise indeed.

Sally jacobs

on Aug 07, 2006

Hehe...as a woman, like what most other people say, I want to be able to discuss my problems, and what's bothering me, sometimes that's all I need. I am capable of solving my own problems, but I would like to share them with my partner. Because I am female when they rush in to 'fix' things, I feel like they don't want to listen, and they don't think I'm capable...even though I know that's not the case.

We are just different, and that's what makes us rub together so well

Moderateman

on Aug 07, 2006

31 by Sally jacobs
Mon, August 07, 2006 11:44 AM

your stance sounds much like colleens, BUT I DO LISTEN, hence me seeking answers.

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