How can I be seen so different here?

My friends and family are baffled

Published on April 27, 2005 By Moderateman In Misc

With out me tooting my own horn, my friends and loved ones see me as a kind and gentle man.. not gentleman gentle man there is a difference.

I understand I am outspoken and hardheaded and can still be damn aggressive WHEN PROVOKED.

But here in joeuser land I am seen as some kind of angry madman, racist, filled with venom.

How can there be such a difference in what my friends and family sees and what joesuer people see me to be?

I just do not understand it.

Comments (Page 1)

AngelaMarie88

on Apr 27, 2005

*bump... Ow!

I've noticed in my own life that an entirely different part of me is revealed when I write. Some writers are introverts, because writing lets them express things that they'd otherwise have no way of venting. If you're known as a "gentle man" among those who know you best, maybe you tend to let yourself go when you write...and let it all out...the good, bad, and all.

I may be way off base here, since I'm not an avid follower of your blogs, though I do catch them occasionally like I did today...

But that's my $0.02.

Moderateman

on Apr 27, 2005

Reply By: AngelaMarie88Posted: Wednesday, April 27, 2005*bump... Ow!I've noticed in my own life that an entirely different part of me is revealed when I write. Some writers are introverts, because writing lets them express things that they'd otherwise have no way of venting. If you're known as a "gentle man" among those who know you best, maybe you tend to let yourself go when you write...and let it all out...the good, bad, and all. I may be way off base here, since I'm not an avid follower of your blogs, though I do catch them occasionally like I did today...But that's my $0.02.

I am hoping the one person that blogs here will see this and add her 2 cents. I am an extrovert in life as I am here and just as outspoken. hmmmm

ParaTed2k

on Apr 27, 2005

I know that we aren't the same as what we present here at JU. Not like we are liars or putting on fronts (although there may be some of each), but we each have a purpose for blogging here, and the purpose doesn't always include the whole of who we are.

I know there are times that I go off, there are times that I seem mean spirited, which most who no me will tell you, i'm not. However, no one who knows me would say that I'm not opinionated. ;~D A lot of the time, when I go off it is because I am actually feeling something and I revel in it with a bit more gusto than I should.

aeryck

on Apr 27, 2005

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"Well, son ~ let's get a couple of illusions out of the way. Number one you are not, 'the saint' that role is already taken, and you are not the 'devil' post filled, but I like what John Lennon had to say, each of us has a little Jesus Christ and a little Adolph Hitler. Unfortunately, we can accentuate more of one and less of the other at times...hence we can sometimes, just be a pain in de neck, but that role is taken too....so I guess stuck with your riddle until she, whoever you want her to be....Cliff Richard called her, 'devil woman' and here in South Africa, he accept a really cold reception when he cam to tour...Bob Dylan got that right when he hinted at never really worrying about what people say cause at the end of the day, you cannot please all of the people all of the time...whether you paint the Sistine Chapel...and make Adam's mammallian pretuberance just right, there is always so guy in a holier than thou schmuck, or schmok, who will come along and say, darn it it's too long. This is way too long......When you blogg do you listen to Heavy Metal? I did sometime find you a touch on the heavy handed, but then again, what you said a lot of the time was right on the button, I think you are a goodly sort, with a touch to much shaving cream on your face...no harm it washes off. Some personality traits just hang on like old takkie......sneaker....Americanizing stuff is a problem too. I guess words are weapons and can cut or heal, so one has to be careful which one's we use, I found profanity just messes it all up..eventually, though sometimes it is a roll on the carpet, but you don't wanna talk to boys so I will leave you till dot comes to drop and anvil on your head...she does it so nicely..."

Moderateman

on Apr 27, 2005

Reply By: aeryckPosted: Wednesday, April 27, 2005.........................................................."Well, son ~ let's get a couple of illusions out of the way. Number one you are not, 'the saint' that role is already taken, and you are not the 'devil' post filled, but I like what John Lennon had to say, each of us has a little Jesus Christ and a little Adolph Hitler. Unfortunately, we can accentuate more of one and less of the other at times...hence we can sometimes, just be a pain in de neck, but that role is taken too....so I guess stuck with your riddle until she, whoever you want her to be....Cliff Richard called her, 'devil woman' and here in South Africa, he accept a really cold reception when he cam to tour...Bob Dylan got that right when he hinted at never really worrying about what people say cause at the end of the day, you cannot please all of the people all of the time...whether you paint the Sistine Chapel...and make Adam's mammallian pretuberance just right, there is always so guy in a holier than thou schmuck, or schmok, who will come along and say, darn it it's too long. This is way too long......When you blogg do you listen to Heavy Metal? I did sometime find you a touch on the heavy handed, but then again, what you said a lot of the time was right on the button, I think you are a goodly sort, with a touch to much shaving cream on your face...no harm it washes off. Some personality traits just hang on like old takkie......sneaker....Americanizing stuff is a problem too. I guess words are weapons and can cut or heal, so one has to be careful which one's we use, I found profanity just messes it all up..eventually, though sometimes it is a roll on the carpet, but you don't wanna talk to boys so I will leave you till dot comes to drop and anvil on your head...she does it so nicely..."

sweet!!!!!! and kind, thank you. btw I listen only to my heart when blogging as music is something I have to devote all my being in.

Moderateman

on Apr 27, 2005

Reply By: ParaTed2kPosted: Wednesday, April 27, 2005I know that we aren't the same as what we present here at JU. Not like we are liars or putting on fronts (although there may be some of each), but we each have a purpose for blogging here, and the purpose doesn't always include the whole of who we are.I know there are times that I go off, there are times that I seem mean spirited, which most who no me will tell you, i'm not. However, no one who knows me would say that I'm not opinionated. ;~D A lot of the time, when I go off it is because I am actually feeling something and I revel in it with a bit more gusto than I should.

I understand I "go off" time to time. but how is all the kind remarks I make to others that hurt go unnoticed here> I have never ever stepped in someones blog and insulted them, attacked them or disrespected them. not once. never. ever.

aeryck

on Apr 27, 2005

".......any particular bands that roast your differentials.......?"

imajinit

on Apr 27, 2005

many of us are multi-faceted people. What the bloggers here at JU see is only one (or perhaps more than one) facet of who you are. Either way, we don't see every facet of you the way your friends and family do. For some people, there is a certain part of us that gets lost in translation when we put our thoughts in print.

not to mention the fact that once you've established a reputation or given a first impression, it's hard to change the way that people see you.

Moderateman

on Apr 27, 2005

Reply By: aeryckPosted: Wednesday, April 27, 2005".......any particular bands that roast your differentials......

heavy metal plain old fashion rock n roll. some classic, alot of country and music from the middle east

Moderateman

on Apr 27, 2005

Reply By: imajinitPosted: Wednesday, April 27, 2005many of us are multi-faceted people. What the bloggers here at JU see is only one (or perhaps more than one) facet of who you are. Either way, we don't see every facet of you the way your friends and family do. For some people, there is a certain part of us that gets lost in translation when we put our thoughts in print. not to mention the fact that once you've established a reputation or given a first impression, it's hard to change the way that people see you.

I kinda think you are right. I am just wondering where all the people I have been kind to here in joeuser land are?

Dan Kaschel

on Apr 27, 2005

Reactions are moderated by consequences. JU consequences are (relatively) low.

Dan

Moderateman

on Apr 27, 2005

I'm sorry dabe but i just has to delete your comments. being taken to task by someone as hate filled and angry as you was just more than I could bear. I have seen many cases of projecting your own emotions and failings on someone else but NEVER HAVE seen someone like you in jy 58 years on earth. you are a hippocrite even comming into my site and commenting at all.

Moderateman

on Apr 27, 2005

Reply By: Dan KaschelPosted: Wednesday, April 27, 2005Reactions are moderated by consequences. JU consequences are (relatively) low.Dan

I kinda get where you are comming from, but the truth is even typed words can hurt. and I am a gentle soul, and people here have hurt me. does that make me less of a person> ?

NJforever

on Apr 27, 2005

I kinda get where you are comming from, but the truth is even typed words can hurt. and I am a gentle soul, and people here have hurt me. does that make me less of a person> ?

Of course not. I'm pretty soft-skinned myself (probably more so than you; not underrating your gentleness, but I'm REALLY soft-skinned). My JU personality, unfortunately, probably comes off nicer to a few people than the actual me (or the real me may come off as more likeable...depends on the person, really). I'm pretty glib and sarcastic, and I speak before I think. Probably about 1/1 millionth of what I want to say or think of saying on JU are actually said.

Moderateman

on Apr 27, 2005

#14 by NJforever
Wednesday, April 27, 2005

I have noticed both sides of you nj. the soft kind and the quick to pull the trigger. ya sound human to me.

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