My Big Brother Jack

On Loving a sibling

Published on October 5, 2005 By Moderateman In Personal Relationships

My big brother jack {he is older 65 to my 59} has always been the one person I have looked up to.

When I was young he was my protect, my tormentor and the bane of my existence.
As I aged we grew apart, I am afraid I was much to wild for my brother, I was so angry that my father died and no one even noticed this 15 year old was not crying, something inside of me died that day may 2nd 1962.

My brother left town to escape the sick situation at home, my mom God rest her soul was not kind to me, she was downright mean matter of fact.

As I hit my 20's jack and I barely spoke, matter of fact we have spent over 30 years of our lives feuding.

Now we have grown old together or apart as the case may be, but somehow being brothers we have patched things up about 2 years ago and now are becoming fast friends.

I heed his advice, his words carry a lot of weight with me.

If you ever read this jack {he doesn't read blogs} I just wanted to say, thank you for being my brother in deed not just in name.

I LOVE YOU JACK!

Comments

Shovelheat

on Oct 05, 2005

A nice tribute to an older brother. I have no brothers (but my sister has one! ha!) but I do have a sister that is 7 years older. Funny how as time passes you realize who really counts in life huh?

Moderateman

on Oct 05, 2005

1 by Shovelheat
Wednesday, October 05, 2005

A nice tribute to an older brother. I have no brothers (but my sister has one! ha!) but I do have a sister that is 7 years older. Funny how as time passes you realize who really counts in life huh?

this year has been amazing joe, my brother and I are friends, My youngest daughter the hard headed one {hm I wonder where she got that from} came up couple weeks ago to let me see maya her daughter, my oldest is in town now and I get to spend sometime with her and her 3 kids,

life is good.

Gimpyone

on Oct 06, 2005

Great tribute my sweetest of friends. You are both lucky to have each other.

Moderateman

on Oct 06, 2005

Reply By: GimpyonePosted: Thursday, October 06, 2005Great tribute my sweetest of friends. You are both lucky to have each other

thanx michele you do remember how much I whined about not having my brother in my life huh?

Manopeace

on Oct 06, 2005

What is with our generation Elie? I too have an older brother... he is seven years my senior....
You spent 30 years feuding with yours.... I spent 25 years not speaking to mine at all!
I can't even remember why. Today, now that Mom and Dad are both gone, we are the best of friends. His kids have an uncle as do mine.
We both learnt the hard way that life is too short not to live it!

foreverserenity

on Oct 06, 2005

This is a wonderful tribute to your brother and to you both opening your eyes and realising what's more important - you loving each other.

I have two older brothers and I can't imagine not speaking to them for that long. It's terrific that you're friends again and your family has returned to the fold!

Dr Guy

on Oct 06, 2005

What is with our generation Elie? I too have an older brother... he is seven years my senior....

I am the older brother, and we have not feuded since we were in our 20s. But like all younger 'babies' of the family, he is very irresponsible and the only time we talk is when I call him 10 times and finally get him (he never returns calls).

Moderateman

on Oct 06, 2005

5 by Manopeace
Thursday, October 06, 2005

when I said fueding I met not talking, I guess I should have made myself clear.

Moderateman

on Oct 06, 2005

#6 by foreverserenity
Thursday, October 06, 2005

thanx donna, It took me almost dieing to get him here, but as it turned out mm is much to mean to gently die.

Moderateman

on Oct 06, 2005

#7 by Dr. Guy
Thursday, October 06, 2005

What is with our generation Elie? I too have an older brother... he is seven years my senior....

I am the older brother, and we have not feuded since we were in our 20s. But like all younger 'babies' of the family, he is very irresponsible and the only time we talk is when I call him 10 times and finally get him (he never returns calls).

my brother and I phone each other most everyday and see each other at least 2 or 3 times a month, {we live about 90 miles apart}

foreverserenity

on Oct 06, 2005

my brother and I phone each other most everyday and see each other at least 2 or 3 times a month, {we live about 90 miles apart}

My older brother lives in NY and works the night shift and at 12 midnight I can listen out for his calls twice a week on the weekends. We talk for more than an hour! Most of the time he talks and I listen and dole out advice!

My oldest brother lives in Jamaica along with my youngest brother. (there are six of us, 3 boys, 3 girls). Four of us IM and email each other often. But we all keep in touch and are there for each other more now than ever, especially since both our parents are gone now.

not so moderate man

on Nov 02, 2005

amen

not so moderate man

on Nov 02, 2005

amen

FossilGirl

on Oct 26, 2006

thank you for your honest Sharing. Having an older brother than I have become estranged with myself, it gives me hope for a good outcome. I am happy that events have lead to a good outcome for you. FG

jennifer1

on Oct 28, 2006

If you ever read this jack {he doesn't read blogs} I just wanted to say, thank you for being my brother in deed not just in name.

I LOVE YOU JACK!

Have you told him this in person?

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