Why I Am Considering Leaving

Not a plea to stay nor a plea period.

Published on April 8, 2007 By Moderateman In Blog Communities

I guess going through what I just went through last January has put things into a sharper perspective for me.

I see people writing article about differing things and lo and behold someone or many someones just have to take what is written PERSONAL, and treat the writer like a blood enemy, attack the writer, try to demean the writer and in many cases do their best to try to run the writer off Joeuser and sometimes they succeed. Many times it just becomes to damn painful for me to write an article that turns ugly. I am finding out this is just not worth the time or the stress it brings to my life while I am busy healing.

In the last couple visits I have seen Parated exit, and it looks like a forever exit.. I shall miss him.. I have seen Bakerstreet fade away and even though baker and I clash at times I miss him too. Too many good people have just left Joeuser because of all the friction and slowly I am leaning in that direction too. Soon there will be nothing left but folks that continue to intentionally misread things so feuds can start, wars can flare up, sides get chosen and cyber blood flows. This once wonderful site has slowly degenerated into "pick-a-fight.com." and it's a crying shame.

This is just my honest opinion about what I see recently, it is not aimed at anyone in particular, it was not written to start a fight with anyone, it was not written so people would rally around and ask me to stay. It was written because it is what I SEE THESE DAYS, nothing more, nothing less.

Comments (Page 2)

Moderateman

on Apr 10, 2007

Reply By: InBloomPosted: Monday, April 09, 2007
Hi, MM, hope you are doing well.

Your card from not just you but hubby {udigitthemost} was such a treasure rose.. sigh.... so many good people here, it is a shame that a few poison mouths ruin it.

adnauseam

on Apr 10, 2007

I liked Loca's philosophical view. Who gives a crank about the Joeusers who dominate some posts and push their pseudo-academic language onto anyone who wants to listen? I don't. It takes all types.

Moderateman

on Apr 10, 2007

Reply By: adnauseamPosted: Tuesday, April 10, 2007
I liked Loca's philosophical view. Who gives a crank about the Joeusers who dominate some posts and push their pseudo-academic language onto anyone who wants to listen? I don't. It takes all types.

I like her view too, to bad I just cannot follow it.. maybe when I grow up I will be able to. SMILE...

shadesofgrey

on Apr 10, 2007

I got it on good info that you will soon have yer own place to live. How is that going?

It's coming along--thanks for asking. I'm a bit over the top with it at the minute--it's all I talk about. The home inspection was this afternoon--and it went well. My fingers and toes are crossed that by midMay this place will be mine! Ah, I could talk about this all day long--but that is sure to bore everyone to death, so I won't.

How are you feeling these days? You're posting more which I'm taking as a good sign. Hoping you're feeling stronger!

Moderateman

on Apr 10, 2007

Reply By: shadesofgreyPosted: Tuesday, April 10, 2007
I got it on good info that you will soon have yer own place to live. How is that going?

It's coming along--thanks for asking. I'm a bit over the top with it at the minute--it's all I talk about. The home inspection was this afternoon--and it went well. My fingers and toes are crossed that by midMay this place will be mine! Ah, I could talk about this all day long--but that is sure to bore everyone to death, so I won't.

How are you feeling these days? You're posting more which I'm taking as a good sign. Hoping you're feeling stronger!

your first place? If so I totally understand why all the yakky yak about it. good for you meg. I am feeling stronger and soon {june I hope} will be up to full strength. Meg? You are one of a kind and truly a good person. anytime, anyplace, if you ever need an beat up old thug to talk to, or scare someone, I am always here for you.

with love, respect,

elie

Moderateman

on Apr 10, 2007

(Citizen)little-whipApril 9, 2007 06:21:39

You can take advantage of your increased awareness by using it to build empathy and become a kinder, gentler Elie, or you can let that new sensitivity take advantage of you and become a whiny, longsuffering (oy vey!) complainer.

oy!! if I start to become a whiny complainer, shoot me please!!

Texas Wahine

on Apr 10, 2007

Hey there, MM. This place can definitely bring you down sometimes.

I think it's better than it used to be, though. Or I'm getting thicker skin and better at ignoring people who bother me.

Izzy just woke up from her nap and she says, "grrraaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh!", which translated, reads, "Aloha from Princess Isabella". Hehe.

Take care of yourself.

(And I agree, there are some really precious people here on JU. I've been blessed with love, well wishes, (and baby gear!) by so many people here. You are one of those people as well. I really appreciated your calling to check on me when I was in the hospital, and it's special to me that you were the first person outside my husband and my boys to find out that Izzy would be a girl.)

*hugs*

foreverserenity

on Apr 10, 2007

Hello Elie..I'm just seeing this post. I understand how you feel and don't blame you for questioning yourself about staying. You would definately be missed! I"m glad you're getting better. Just continue to take care of you and don't let anyone or anything stress you more. I miss reading with you Elie. It would definately be hard to say goodbye. So many nice bloggers have moved on....it's your choice but know that I'll never forget you!

MasonM

on Apr 11, 2007

I try too mason, but sometimes the hatred expressed is so virulent it is hard to ignore

Only if you allow it to be my friend. Try to see past it. No matter how bad it may appear in type remember there is a human being behind it and there is some reason they have chosen to express themselves in such a way. You and I both know how pain can affect one's outlook and pain comes in many forms.

Myrrander

on Apr 11, 2007

fuck it mod, we all leave and then we all come back.

do what you have to do. then come back and play with us in the sandbox. I've done it several times and there's always open arms when you come back, even with people you fought with before.

Good luck.

Moderateman

on Apr 11, 2007

Reply By: Texas WahinePosted: Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Hey there, MM. This place can definitely bring you down sometimes.

I think it's better than it used to be, though. Or I'm getting thicker skin and better at ignoring people who bother me.

Izzy just woke up from her nap and she says, "grrraaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh!", which translated, reads, "Aloha from Princess Isabella". Hehe.

Tell the princess I return her salutations with a grufnarguggle which translates to "may health and love always be your companion"

Moderateman

on Apr 11, 2007

Reply By: foreverserenityPosted: Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Hello Elie..I'm just seeing this post. I understand how you feel and don't blame you for questioning yourself about staying. You would definately be missed! I"m glad you're getting better. Just continue to take care of you and don't let anyone or anything stress you more. I miss reading with you Elie. It would definately be hard to say goodbye. So many nice bloggers have moved on....it's your choice but know that I'll never forget you!

Donna? we just have to exchange Phone numbers, you are far to precious to me to lose.

Moderateman

on Apr 11, 2007

Reply By: MasonMPosted: Wednesday, April 11, 2007
I try too mason, but sometimes the hatred expressed is so virulent it is hard to ignore

Only if you allow it to be my friend. Try to see past it. No matter how bad it may appear in type remember there is a human being behind it and there is some reason they have chosen to express themselves in such a way. You and I both know how pain can affect one's outlook and pain comes in many forms.

very zen mason and very true. ...food for thought for sure.

Moderateman

on Apr 11, 2007

Reply By: MyrranderPosted: Wednesday, April 11, 2007
fuck it mod, we all leave and then we all come back.

do what you have to do. then come back and play with us in the sandbox. I've done it several times and there's always open arms when you come back, even with people you fought with before.

Good luck.

All true myrr.... all true. Good to see you back on your game and sorry about the divorce.

shadesofgrey

on Apr 11, 2007

your first place?

Yes. Very big/scary decision. I almost feel like a grown up!

I am always here for you.

I assure you the feelings/sentiments are mutual.

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