Curious, What does FRIENDSHIP mean to YOU!

Published on March 2, 2006 By Moderateman In Personal Relationships

In My last article Deference brought up friendship means something different to him than it does to me.

I am real curious about this, {learning still} May I have your age, sex and what does friendship mean to you at this point in your life?

To me it means that I am always there for my friends, no matter what, their friendship carries a lot of weight and importance to me,

I am not ever to busy to listen to a friend, offer an ear or some advice if asked.

To me friends are my family, the closest people to me, the ones I depend on for strength in times of need, the ones I am strong for when needed.

Friends are a rare commodity, we USUALLY do not have a ton of real friends, most people I know have less than a handful of them.

I have many people I am friendly with, but not many friends { I count four} THE ONES I have have been time tested and they are still here, through the worse of tragedies to the best of times, still here.

This is not some kind of "test" I will not argue my ideas are better than yours are.

Basically it is just an "inquiring mind wants to know"

Comments (Page 2)

Moderateman

on Mar 02, 2006

#15 by Deference
Thursday, March 02, 2006

Friend: Any animal one interacts with in one's life given the correct perspective (understanding) and opportunity.

as with any mathmatical equation, the formula is true if the inverse of the statement is also correct

So a non-friend, innately realizing the above statement true will abstain from any interaction with another to squelch the possibilities of both understanding and opportunity.

Deference: Male, 26

damn you are bright, and considering your youth way ahead of the learning curve.

Deference

on Mar 03, 2006

High praise, Moderateman, high praise.

Thanks.

I'm still working out the kinks, but perhaps some day soon I'll be able to write a fine thread regarding this topic in more detail.

...considering your youth way ahead of the learning curve. - Moderateman

I've walked in many people's shoes and spent much time thinking...

MasonM

on Mar 03, 2006

Male, 44. A friend is someone who will bail you out of jail at 4:00am. A good friend is someone who is sitting in jail with you saying "damn that was fun!"

Trudygolightly

on Mar 03, 2006

I have to give you one of my rare Insightfuls for this answer

Why thanks MM

I'm glad you liked the post.

Moderateman

on Mar 06, 2006

Reply By: MasonMPosted: Friday, March 03, 2006Male, 44. A friend is someone who will bail you out of jail at 4:00am. A good friend is someone who is sitting in jail with you saying "damn that was fun!"

that's the end of Emails from docmiler.. I have always loved that one.

foreverserenity

on Mar 07, 2006

I like and agree with your idea of what a friend is: "To me it means that I am always there for my friends, no matter what, their friendship carries a lot of weight and importance to me,

I am not ever to busy to listen to a friend, offer an ear or some advice if asked.

To me friends are my family, the closest people to me, the ones I depend on for strength in times of need, the ones I am strong for when needed."

And I like Ted's as well:

"Because of the realities of my life, most my friends live hundreds of miles away. We aren't at each others special family and personal events. We don't get together for dinner. In fact, I'll probably never actually see most of them (face to face at least) again. But they are friends.

To me, the fact that when we do talk, it's as if we have never been apart. Whether it has been days, weeks, months (or in a couple of cases.. even years) since the last time we talked, we just pick up where we left off. In the course of the conversation we do kind of "catch up" but we never really notice that's what we are doing.

So how does that make us friends? Because on an almost daily basis, we are thinking of either other, we care about each other and keep that connection not just open, but active."

Both description is how my friendships are. Oh yeah, and I'm female, and 40. All of my friends live far away from me. I can count five who I'm pretty close to. They mean the world to me and although we don't see each other everyday, we talk often, and we always keep in touch. And although sometimes there are absences that can mean a month or two of no contact - we all lead busy lives - it doesn't mean we lose each other in the process, if nothing else, our bond grows stronger.

Moderateman

on Mar 07, 2006

#21 by foreverserenity
Tuesday, March 07, 2006

I knew we had some things in common donna, the more I reaad you the more I see them.

elie

JillUser

on Mar 07, 2006

I have always liked the saying that different kinds of friends enter your life, some for a lifetime, some for a season and some for a reason. I have had people who were great friends who got me through a tough spot and then moved on (that would be a friend for a reason). I have had people who were friends while we were neighbors and shared life experiences during that time (friends for a season). And the most exclusive group are the few friends who have always been there and always will be.

I close friend is someone who knows your faults and loves you anyway.

mignuna

on Mar 08, 2006

"I have many people I am friendly with, but not many friends { I count four} THE ONES I have have been time tested and they are still here, through the worse of tragedies to the best of times, still here"

i could say the exact same for myself. in fact, i will. when you're in trouble, an acquaintance might be there for you, but a friend is there with you.

mig xxx

ParaTed2k

on Mar 08, 2006

Speaking on this subject, me and one of my life long friends from the Army just spent 3 1/2 hours on the phone. It started out as an IMing session, but she needed me more than IMs can offer.

We can't say we have been there for each other all that often, but there are times we can be. It is for those precious times that we are still (and will always be) friends.

Moderateman

on Mar 08, 2006

#23 by JillUser
Tuesday, March 07, 2006

I like thaT "SOME OF LIFE, SOME FOR A SEASON, SOME FOR A REASON"

Moderateman

on Mar 08, 2006

#24 by mignuna
Wednesday, March 08, 2006

could say the exact same for myself. in fact, i will. when you're in trouble, an acquaintance might be there for you, but a friend is there with you.
mig xxx

yep at your side evenb if it's just spiritully. Michele and I are always there for each other even though we are over 3,000 miles apart.

Moderateman

on Mar 08, 2006

25 by ParaTed2k
Wednesday, March 08, 2006

Speaking on this subject, me and one of my life long friends from the Army just spent 3 1/2 hours on the phone. It started out as an IMing session, but she needed me more than IMs can offer.

and you rise to the occasion. good work ted.

dynamaso

on Mar 16, 2006

I'm male and 42.

My darling wife is my best friend and I'm blessed to have some truly wonderful people who call me a friend. Some of my closet friends live on the other side of the world and our communication is usually via emails. But their importance to me is not diminished because of distance or lack of physical contact with each other.

I also think in this day and age, the definition of friendships is being redefined. Many real friendships are developed on the internet, through such devices as JU, for instance. There are certainly a few users here I would count as real friends.

Great topic, Elie.

Moderateman

on Mar 16, 2006

#29 by dynamaso
Thursday, March 16, 2006

also think in this day and age, the definition of friendships is being redefined. Many real friendships are developed on the internet, through such devices as JU, for instance. There are certainly a few users here I would count as real friends.

Great topic, Elie.

good definition maso, and thank you for the kudo.

MM

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